Saturday, July 18, 2009

Secrets

Do you have secrets? Well, I know everyone has secrets. And no, this is not an attempt as a post secret post like Kristina or Shelle did. Although, it would be really interesting to hear what people say.

I'm just wondering if there are people out there like me that really have NO secrets. Really. I mean there are things in my past that I'm not proud of, but plenty of people know about them. And I don't talk about them because they aren't readily on my mind all the time, and out of respect for myself and other people, I don't post it for the world to read about on the Internet, but if someone asked I would tell them.

I also have like NO filter. At all. For some reason, I always feel the need to regurgitate any and all information that I consume. And anything that comes into my brain, comes out of my mouth. So sometimes, I'm not always as diplomatic as I could be. I might be rude sometimes, but at least you'll know I'm being honest.

But, I don't' think I'm a gossip, though. If someone confides in me, as long as I can talk about it with that person, then I don't necessarily feel the need to spill the beans to everyone else around.

I do, feel the need to talk about stuff. Have you ever read the Five Languages of Love?
Well, I'm talk or speech or whatever it is. Words, maybe. I need words. I need to talk about how I feel. When I feel like crap, I talk about it. When I'm excited, I talk about it.

I love that I have friends and sisters I can call when I need to talk. It's very, very therapeutic for me. And crying. Crying feels really good sometimes. If I can talk long enough to get a good cry, then I always feel better. It's weird, for some reason, as I've gotten older, it's not as easy for me to cry as it used to be. But, it's like it releases the pressure.

So, recently, I was having one of my crazy, gonna flip my lid moments, and my hubby suggested I go see a good cry movie (he's a good, smart man, than one). So, I called up MB, and we went and saw a good laugh movie, instead, but I did feel better afterward. And I'm so glad I have such a great friend in her, that I can just barf up all of my emotions and she is there to listen to me, and sort through my imaginary problems (cuz that's what they are).

Thanks, Motherboard. Love your stinkin' guts!

So, how about you? Are you a secret keeper? Do you keep things in, or is your brain wide open for the world to see, like mine?

25 comments:

~The Robin's Nest~ said...

Wow Sher,
You sound like you could be my sister! I don't have secrets, I, like you, say it like it is (sometimes I should think longer before I speak, but my heart always means well.) I don't care what people think of me at all, but I do care what the Lord thinks of what I am doing!
I should have alot of secrets because in my past I made horrible choices, but that was before God got ahold of me...So now my past has become a witnessing tool.
Take care!
Robin~♥

debilyn said...

i think i definitely qualify as a secret keeper to some extent. my sisters are probably the only people in the world who know everything about me!

M-Cat said...

You are my twin. Except, the better lookin one. Oh, and the smarter one. And the more talented one.

I am always talking, and have no secrets. My life is a freakin open book. I sometimes think I should not be so open, and I try, but for some reason just think everyone wants to her what I have to say all the time about everything.

Becca said...

Secrets--no, I'm a lot like you in that I don't mind being open about the crap I've done that I'm not proud of.

Keep things in--yeah, I totally bottle up all my emotions--not the good and happy ones thought, just all the ones that have anything negative associated with them. It's so bad for me and I know it, but I just can't get past it. I think my husband would die of shock if I ever actually blew a fuse--maybe I'll be brave enough to try it one day.

val of the south said...

Did you go to my favorite $2 theater? That's where I saw 17 Again - and I'm going again next week if you wanna come with!

I am a chatter...I'd like to be more open, but it's come back to bite me in the butt on more than one occasion. Really it depends on how much caffeine I've had, 'cause then my mouth works faster than my brain :)

2busy said...

I don't even know how to comment on this one. I'm not sure what I am a gossipy secret keeper? It depends on the mood.

The Garden of Egan said...

Ya, I sorta have no filter either....kinda like diahhrea of the mouth. Whatcha see is whatcha get.
Secrets....nope, I keep them.

Alyson (New England Living) said...

I'm both! Some things I only share with very few people, but, like you, I NEED to talk about everything.

Melanie J said...

I'm really prone to word vomit when I'm stressed. In general, though, I'm much more open than not. I don't like secrets although I keep other people's secrets well. But I think sharing good things make people happy and sharing hard things makes burdens lighter.

Rachel Sue said...

I think we would get along great. I think I drive my husband nuts because he is my dumping ground when he comes home from work. Everything just sort of comes tumbling out. And it just seems like I can't even help it.

I need to collect some more good friends. . .

Erin said...

Hmmm...I don't like sharing some things with some people. But that is mostly because I am deathly afraid they are going to judge me. If I get the feeling that they won't judge me, I am an open book. (As you pretty much know. I'm glad you are good at keeping stuff to yourself when it is prudent. Thank you.)

Motherboard said...

My goodness! That is the nicest thing I have read all stinkin' day. Thank you! I needed that!

I'm a secret keeper. Mine and everyone else's. I like it that way.

Terresa said...

I'm half and half -- part secrets that no one knows and part confessor of everything I've ever done and even a few things I haven't yet.

Mikki said...

Hey there!!!! Long time, no visit eh?
I think I'm a bit of a secret keeper. Like Debilyn above, I think my sister is the only person who knows my deepest, darkest secret. Sounds mysterious no? LOL

SO said...

I am pretty open but I am not a talker. At all. I can talk if I'm with someone who wants to talk but put me with someone who doesn't want to talk and I flatline. Really. I probably keep too much inside instead of talking things out. I'm glad you have a good friend that you can talk too. I really want to see that movie! I'll have to put in on my netflix when it comes out on dvd because I think it's out of the theaters around here.

DeNae said...

Yep. I have secrets. Loads of them. I'd tell you, but they're secrets.

Me said...

I tend to be more reserved. Yet, in the right setting..I open up and don't shut up!

Tink said...

It's not that I keep secrets, but I am more reserved. I do share with people when I feel it is appropriate and I think it might help them. However, I've had my share of experiences where when I've shared some things, people have gossiped about it or used it against me or my family. Very hurtful. It's a fine line for me of what I do/do not share with people. But I love how open you are and share your thoughts and feelings and experiences. It makes you endearing! And I agree, sometimes a good cry is so worth it! Glad you have Motherboard!

tiburon said...

I have a few skeletons - and I used to be horrible at keeping secrets. I am better now...

wonder woman said...

It's hard for me to keep secrets. I want everyone to know everything about me and love me anyway. It's a lot to ask.

And I really need more girlfriends. Or at least one that lives within an hour's drive of me. My current BFF is 4 states away, which makes it kinda hard to catch a good chick flic together.

Kristina P. said...

I just saw this post! My coworker's name is Sherrie, and she wants to start a blog, and I was telling her about your blog name, and she is jealous because it fits her perfectly.

Anyway, I wouldn't say that I'm a huge secret keeper, but I do have a few.

Shelle-BlokThoughts said...

Um I wrote a whole post about how I'm horrible at keeping secrets... but I also don't have many of my own so there ya go! We are so alike... except I can't play the piano OR run! :)

MommyJ said...

I am absolutely a no filter kind of person. I also talk when I get nervous and uncomfortable and cannot stop the words from flowing out, completely uncontrolled. I've embarrassed myself so many times.

It's me though. Sort of a what you see is what you get sort of thing.

Dede said...

There are things my own mother doesn't know about me...or my husband. Not things that I've done, but my thoughts and feelings and ideas. I want to spill them out, but I have a hard time trusting people with my feelings! I was burned a few too many times, and I will not divulge my deepest thoughts to anyone!

Good for you for not being that way:-)

Kado! said...

I can keep secrets....and I guess I don't have any secrets cause my husbands know everything about me...but like you...there are things in my past...that just don't come up in conversation!!! But....if anyone ever asked...I can tell a good story...that happens to be true too! ;)