Monday, April 28, 2008
Somebody Help me!!!
I think my son might have ADD or ADHD or whatever you call it. That is really, really, really, (emphasis on the REALLY) hard for me to say. I have always been of the mind that ADD is this fake, made up thing that people thought of as an excuse to get out of being responsible for their actions, and to be lazy. I hate the idea of giving any of my children, or anyone for that matter, an excuse to get out of doing what they're supposed to. But, I've been thinking.
I know a lot of people, including TJ's primary teachers, school teachers, karate sensei, friend's parents, and innocent passers-by think that he is just totally undisciplined and that I'm just a loser mom who doesn't discipline her child. I have actually had people make comments to me to that effect. Seriously. I actually had someone tell me one time, that they would never raise their kids the way I'm raising mine. I'm getting worked up right now just thinking about it. I'm not usually one to hold a grudge, but that one, I have had a really hard time getting over it. Talk about the ultimate insult to a parent!
The fact of the matter is that TJ probably get disciplined more than any other kid I know. We are VERY strict with him. He spend A LOT of time in time out, gets spanked regularly (oh so taboo, I know), and I try my hardest to give him structure and rules to follow. Tyson just doesn't respond to it, no matter how hard I try.
He just can't focus. It seems like the word I use the most in my vocabulary with Tyson is FOCUS! If he tells me he needs to go potty, he can't seem to focus long enough to make it the 10 feet from the kitchen to the bathroom without getting distracted, and ends up wetting his pants. It takes him half an hour to get dressed in the morning because he keeps forgetting what he's doing. If I tell him to clean something up, he has to keep being reminded over and over because he gets distracted so easily. He moves sooo slowly with everything he does.
But, I've been thinking. What if ADD is like Depression. There are a lot of people out there that think the depression is a fake disease, and a cop-out. And even though we hate to admit it, taking medication for it actually helps. What if ADD is like that? What if it really is something real and valid and what if putting Tyson on something would help him? It's hard, because I HATE the idea of putting my child on drugs. But, what if that's what he needs?
So, if any of you have experience or knowledge about this, I would love to hear your opinions.